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okay there are no other kids at the house only her grandparents!
She is very bored! and has nothing to do! i dont want her on the computer anymore because she has been on since like 1:00pm

board games, card games, video games, crafts, go bowling or swimming if there’s someone that can take her. have her write a letter to someone, family or friend. read a book, do a puzzle, start a scrapbook or diary… hope some of this is useful. i remember when my daughter was that age or so & i remember hearing her say “i’m bored” A LOT!!! lol

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Do they adopt them out from the safe haven area or do they go into other adoption centers?

This is just a question, i’m not pregnant or planning on leaving a baby. I just found out that it will be extremely hard for me to have a baby. I just want to konw what’s going on if I need to adopt.

I believe DSS gets invloved. After that, I am sure DSS gets the child involved with foster parents till adoption. Try calling DSS and find out what happens after they are left at safe haven. Best of luck with your future! Babies come from all over!

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When a child is left at a safe haven (typically a fire station, police station, or hospital) Children Services is contacted to come and pick up the child. The child is then placed into foster care for a period of time (depending on where you live). After that, the children are then (hopefully) adopted into loving families.

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I was wondering what people do when their child doesn’t take a long enough nap. My 8 month old son has been taking a short morning nap and has been too tired to make it to the “scheduled” nap time that I’m trying to get him to. So, I’ve been putting him down when he’s tired and forgetting the schedule. Should I be doing this? Am I messing up my schedule by doing this? Should I just be keeping him up until his scheduled nap time? I just find it difficult to justify keeping him up when he gets so overtired.

Watch your baby. Let him transition as he needs to adjust his ’schedule’ or ‘routine’. Many babies shorten their morning naps and start taking a longer afternoon nap before dropping it (some babies drop their morning nap as early as 9 months).

I would just let him do his own thing - continue to keep your bedtime routine and wake up/morning routine at roughly the same times and let him sort out his day on his own. He’ll let you know what he needs.

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at 8 months, there is really no need for a *schedule*…put him down when he is tired. You can’t make an awake baby sleep when they are not tired, likewise, it is hard to keep a sleepy baby awake.

My daughter is 17 months, and we only have a very *rough* schedule. She gets up between 7-8 in the morning, goes down for her nap between 11-1 (she is still talking to herself in her crib right now instead of napping), and she goes to bed between 7:30 - 8:30. Some days she takes 2 naps because she is tired.

I let her lead her *schedule* Keep putting him down for his nap when he gets tired. Between 8-10 months, I found my daughter would go between 2-3 naps per day, just depending.

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How about scrapping your schedule and going by your sons schedule?

If he’s tired, he will nap or want to nap when he wants to. If he wakes up 30 mins later and doesn’t fall asleep on his own, then he doesn’t need any more sleep at that time.

I never tried putting my daughter back to sleep during her naps. If she wakes up and she is still tired, she’ll fall right back to sleep, if not, well then depending what time it is, i’ll feed her lunch or i’ll just change her diaper and go on with our day.

what are the signs for asthma in a 6 week old baby? My sister in law and my brother both suffer from asthma. My sister in law thinks that her 6 wk old son’s cold could be asthma.

Take him to the doctor. I have asthma also, and I think one of my twin boys may have a touch of it, but the doctor told me no. What happens is, when he gets a cold, a bit of the congestion goes to the back of his nasal passages, which makes it sound like he is wheezing. My doctor told me to not rely only on a wheezing sound…you need to lift up baby’s shirt and look at his abdomen, if he is struggling, you will see his tummy rise up and down very quickly when he breathes. If it’s rising up and down like normal, then he’s fine.

Again though, tell her to GO TO THE DOCTOR. Every baby is different, and it’ better to be safe than sorry. Especially where having any trouble breathing is concerned. Asthma is scary!

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I’m glad you asked this question! I literally JUST came back from the pediatrician with my daughter, who has had a cough since she was 10 months old, she’s now 14 months. Our old pediatrician kept saying “it’s a virus”, blah blah blah. She didn’t get better, her chest is always rattly. So we went for a second opinion, thank Goodness. The new ped took one listen to her chest and said “she likely has asthma”.
Anyway, some of the signs we saw were a really rattlyl chest after eating, even breastfeeding, which started shortly after her birth and got progressively worse. As she got older, everytime she got sick (which seemed to be ALOT), she would devleop a cough so bad she couldn’t eat or sleep. She would choke on her food. We had to give her babyfood even at a year because that was all she could eat without choking. sometimes, she would throw up from coughing so much.
I don’t know if they can give asthma medication to a baby this young, but I urge her to keep pestering her pediatrician if she is not satisfied, and get a second opinion if needed. Mother’s instincts are very powerful!

My kids father died in 06. They each get SSI survior benefits. My husband wants to adopt them and give him his last name. We only want to do this if they can keep getting the money. We put the money into a savings account for them and provide full support with our income.
I found this on the SS website. So maybe they do keep getting the benefits.
If someone adopts a child who is receiving benefits
When a child who is receiving benefits is adopted, let us know the child’s new name, the date of the adoption decree, and the adopting parent’s name and address. The adoption will not cause benefits to end.
I posted this on the law and ethics board and all I got was bashing. People think all we are trying to do is mooch off the system. We don’t even use the money. We put it into a savings account for each child and we don’t want to lose it since it is the only thing there father gave to them.

Stepparent adoption does not affect SS benefits

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I am pretty confident that if your hubby adopts them then thery will lose the benefit. The continuation of benefits ONLY applies to disabled children. Call SSI and ask. Please do not allow them to lose their benefits. They may need this when college time comes around the corner. The father is gone and they are entitled to the death benefits.
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Their father is gone, is is it really necessary for hubby to adopt them? You have custody, they are with you. Is the last name really bothering him? Please do not take the only thing they have left of their father, his name.

If you have kids, there is nothing wrong with trying to get as much money as possible from the system.

Besides, millions of people pay accountants to minimise the tax they spend annually - so those who were bashing you were hypocrites themselves.

Anyway, I’m not too sure with the SSI benefits technicality etc